Kids Online Safety Plan

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name: kids-online-safety-plan
description: "Build an age-appropriate online-safety plan for a child — the settings, the agreements, and the conversations — that protects without just spying or banning everything. Use when asked to keep my kid safe online, parental controls setup, my child's online safety, or screen rules for kids. Produces an age-tuned plan covering device/platform settings, a family agreement, the ongoing conversations that matter more than any filter, warning signs to watch for, and how to respond to trouble — balancing safety with trust and independence."
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# Kids' Online-Safety Plan

Locking everything down breeds workarounds and secrecy; doing nothing leaves kids exposed. Good online safety is settings *plus* trust: age-appropriate controls, a clear family agreement, and — the part that actually protects — an open line so a kid will come to you when something goes wrong. This builds that, tuned to the child's age.

## What This Skill Produces

- **Age-tuned settings** — device, app, and platform controls appropriate to the child's age and maturity
- **A family agreement** — shared, age-appropriate rules on time, content, sharing, and strangers, that the kid helps shape
- **The conversations** — the ongoing talks (about strangers, sharing, pressure, mistakes) that matter more than any filter
- **Warning signs** — behavioral changes that may signal bullying, grooming, or distress
- **A response plan** — what to do (calmly) if something goes wrong, and where to get help/report

## Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:
- **The child's age(s)** — the single biggest factor
- **Devices & platforms** — what they use (games, social, messaging, tablets, phones)
- **Current setup** — any controls or rules already in place
- **Your concern** — general safety, a specific worry, a recent incident
- **Your parenting balance** — how you weigh protection vs independence/trust

## Framework: Settings + Trust, By Age

1. **Match to age and maturity.** A 7-year-old and a 15-year-old need very different plans — controls loosen and conversations deepen as they grow.
2. **Set the technical baseline.** Age-appropriate content filters, privacy settings, screen-time tools, and safe defaults on the platforms they actually use.
3. **Agree, don't just impose.** A family agreement the child helps write gets buy-in; pure surveillance invites secret accounts and lies.
4. **Prioritize the open door.** The best protection is a kid who'll tell you when something's wrong — react to mistakes with calm, not punishment, so they keep coming to you.
5. **Watch, and know how to respond.** Learn the warning signs and have a plan for bullying, contact from strangers, or exposure — including how to report and where to get help.

## Output Format

### Online-safety plan: child age [x] · [platforms] · concern: [y]

**Settings (age-appropriate):** [device/app/platform controls + privacy defaults].
**Family agreement:** [time · content · sharing · stranger rules — co-created].
**Talk about (ongoing):** strangers/contact · what's safe to share · pressure & mistakes · coming to you.
**Warning signs:** [behavioral changes to watch].
**If something goes wrong:** [calm response · how to report/block · where to get help].

**Balance:** [tighter now / more independence as they show maturity].

## Quality Checks
- [ ] Plan is tuned to the child's specific age/maturity
- [ ] Covers technical settings on the platforms they actually use
- [ ] Includes a co-created family agreement, not just top-down bans
- [ ] Emphasizes ongoing conversation and an open, non-punitive door
- [ ] Lists warning signs and a calm response/reporting plan
- [ ] Balances protection with age-appropriate independence

## Anti-Patterns
- **Pure surveillance/lockdown** that breeds secret accounts.
- **One-size rules** ignoring the child's age.
- **Set-and-forget controls** with no conversation.
- **Punishing mistakes harshly** so the kid hides the next problem.
- **No plan** for when something actually goes wrong.

## Example Trigger Phrases
- "How do I keep my 9-year-old safe online?"
- "Set up parental controls and rules for my kids' tablets."
- "My teenager's on social media — what should our agreement be?"
- "What are the warning signs my child is being bullied or groomed online?"
- "Screen-time and online rules that won't start a war with my kid."