Dating Profile Doctor

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name: dating-profile-doctor
description: "Rewrite a dating profile so it sounds like you on a good day — mined from how you actually talk, specific instead of generic, with photo order feedback and first-message craft — under one hard rule: nothing you can't back up in person. Use when someone says 'fix my dating profile', 'why am I getting no matches', 'what do I say first', or 'roast my Hinge prompts'. Produces rewritten bio and prompts, a photo lineup critique, and three first-message templates that reference, not flatter."
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# Dating Profile Doctor Skill

Every dating profile converges on the same person: loves travel, good food,
"fluent in sarcasm," gym-and-dog photo, "just ask." That person gets no
messages because that person doesn't exist. The fix isn't writing a *better*
generic profile — it's mining how the actual human talks and what they
actually do on a Tuesday, then writing that with craft. One rule governs
everything: **every line must be true and demonstrable on a first date** —
because the profile's job isn't maximum matches, it's matches with the person
who'll like who shows up.

## What This Skill Produces

- A **rewritten bio + prompt answers** in the user's real voice, specific
  enough to be reply-able (every line an easy conversation opener)
- A **photo lineup critique**: order, what each slot should do, what's
  missing — based on their description of what they have
- **Three first-message templates** built on referencing the other person's
  profile, with the user's voice, not pickup-artist scripts
- A **truth audit**: anything in the old profile that oversold, flagged

## Required Inputs

Ask for (if not already provided):
- The current profile verbatim (bio, prompts, and a description of each photo)
- How they actually talk: paste a few texts to friends, or answer two
  questions casually — the voice sample is the raw material
- The Tuesday truth: what they actually did last week (not hobbies-in-theory
  — the real ones)
- Who they're hoping to meet, and what happened so far (no matches? matches
  but no conversations? conversations that die?)

## Framework

1. **Diagnose from the symptom.** No matches → photos and first-impression
   problem. Matches, no messages → profile gives nothing to reply to.
   Conversations die → openers and prompt-answers problem. Fix the failing
   stage, not everything.
2. **Mine the voice sample.** Pull their actual phrasings, humor style,
   energy. The rewrite recombines *their* words — the test is a friend
   reading it and saying "that's so you," not "who wrote this?"
3. **Replace claims with evidence.** "I'm funny" → the funny line. "Love
   cooking" → "currently on attempt four of my nonna's ragù; attempt three
   is why the smoke alarm has opinions." Rule: every abstract claim becomes
   one concrete, true, recent detail. Specifics are reply hooks; adjectives
   are wallpaper.
4. **Order the photos for the skim.** Slot 1: clearly them, face visible,
   genuine expression (no sunglasses, no group). Middle: one full-body, one
   doing-a-real-thing, one social. Kill: mirror-selfie stacks, every-photo-
   group, the ex-crop, filters that will make meeting feel like a bait-and-
   switch. Work from their descriptions; recommend what to reshoot.
5. **First messages reference, never rate.** Template shape: [specific thing
   from their profile] + [genuine reaction or question in the user's voice].
   Never comment on bodies/looks in an opener; never "hey"; never negging —
   name that these aren't prudishness rules, they're response-rate rules that
   also happen to be decency rules.
6. **Run the truth audit.** Anything aspirational presented as current
   (the guitar not touched since 2023, the height), flag it: fix the claim,
   not the truth. The profile is a promise the first date keeps.

## Output Format

```
## Diagnosis
[Which stage is failing and the evidence]

## Bio + prompts, rewritten (in your voice)
[Before → after per section, one line on why]

## Photo lineup
| Slot | What's there | Keep/replace | What this slot should do |

## First messages (yours to adapt)
[3 templates with worked examples using their voice]

## Truth audit
[Oversold lines → honest fix]

## The test
[Send the rewrite to your most honest friend: "does this sound like me on a
good day?" Adjust until yes.]
```

## Quality Checks

- [ ] Every rewritten line traces to the voice sample or the Tuesday truth —
      zero imported personality
- [ ] Each prompt answer contains a specific, reply-able hook
- [ ] The truth audit ran; aspirational claims were fixed toward truth, not
      polish
- [ ] First messages reference the other person's profile content; none open
      on appearance
- [ ] Photo advice works from what they described, and says what to reshoot
      rather than pretending the current set is enough

## Anti-Patterns

- [ ] Do not write a persona — "you on a good day" is the ceiling; "someone
      cooler than you" is catfishing with extra steps
- [ ] Do not provide manipulation tactics, negging, or scripts designed to
      pressure — decline plainly; response-rate and respect point the same
      direction anyway
- [ ] Do not stack generic positives ("adventurous, easygoing") — if a line
      could appear in 10,000 profiles, cut it
- [ ] Do not promise outcomes — the honest pitch is better conversations with
      better-fit people, not "10x your matches"
- [ ] Do not edit the person; edit the presentation. If the input is "should
      I pretend I don't have kids," the answer is no, and that's final

## Related

[[personal-bio]] for the professional cousin; [[the-understudy]] for the
voice-mining method at full depth; [[notes-humanizer]] when the draft sounds
AI-written — the enemy here too.